Godly Sorrow is Better for Them and Us!
by Kathy Collard Miller and Larry Miller
Several years ago, a friend passed along confidential information about us and we were hurt. It initially felt “right” to wallow in our pain and we wanted to strike out in anger. But then we rehearsed how we could choose to have godly sorrow instead.
When someone sins against any of us, godly sorrow is the loving choice because then we grieve because we know they will suffer from their sinful choices. We grieve, wanting the best for them rather than lashing out in some ungodly way and justifying it. We begin to desire their repentance even if we are never justified, vindicated, and credited with loving them well. Godly sorrow most often includes giving grace and mercy to the person who doesn’t deserve it. This response is godly because it is not about us, it is about God being glorified through treating them with God’s kind of love, forgiveness, and understanding. We may still set boundaries but even that can be a result of godly sorrow.
Of course, Jesus is our perfect example of Godly Sorrow. Notice his heart in the interaction with the Pharisees and the man with a withered hand: